What do you say to your partner when you come home from work?
Author: Russell SmithMay 18, 2012
Jim Rohn said many great things and one of them was ‘when you work, work, when you play, play, don’t mix the two’.
We all need some fun at work but when it gets to the point where chat, socialising or just plain goofing off replaces hard work, discipline and productivity, you know that things have got to to change. Similarly, when you are at home and you are constantly on your laptop or always in your head worrying, thinking, mulling about the office, you know that things have got to change.
A useful distinction to make is to try as best you can to separate the work and the play. Think of it as separate jobs, roles or hats. One hat is business owner. Another hat is father/mother, partner, friend or son. You probably have about 6-10 hats, some of these you will swap within one day.
When you’ve got the business owner hat on, don’t act like a friend. When you’ve got the partner hat on, don’t act like the business owner (by treating your spouse as a business executive!!!).
If you are struggling in your business, it can be hard to stop thinking about it when you are at home but mental energy used on mulling, worrying and thinking about the crisis is much better if it is used at the right time, in the office, in the business.
Being present at home is one of the hardest tricks to pull off. One of my mentors used to say, ‘coming home from work is an art-form’ and I believe he is right and its one that you can be really good at or really bad at.
I don’t believe in work-life balance for business owners. Employees may achieve it, but a business to a business owner is more than a job. But I do believe in passionate, obsessive focus on family and work. I think you can go for both with real dedication, it isn’t easy but it is worth it.